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CHAPTER #9-COACH YOUR CRITIC OUT


The infamous inner critic, you know, that little voice inside your head that says you can’t, until you’re pretty darn sure it’s right. Well, it’s not. It’s dead wrong, I’m going to give you the surefire cure to oust your critic so you can live your dreams.

1. Tactic One: Know Your Enemy.

In order to fight the good fight, you have to recognize the enemy. In other words, you must spend some time getting to know your own thinking process. Take a day to listen from the inside out instead of the outside in. What are you saying to yourself? When a great idea pops into your head what do you do with it? Many people diminish it until the good idea is but a mere memory. So listen close and hear what your personal inner critic sounds like.

2. Tactic Two: Talk Back

Isn’t it interesting that we won’t accept someone else putting us down, but we are quite content to let our inner critic do us in? Quit being your own worst enemy. When you hear “I can’t”, talk back immediately! You can talk your inner critic back into silence. It’s not fond of fighting.

3. Tactic Three: Write It Down To Size

Yes indeed, the pen is a powerful tool. Once you have learned to recognize the inner critic, and you’ve started talking back, keep it in its place by writing it out. This takes a little more time and a little more discipline but in the long run you will come out ahead. Write down all the finicky, frustrating thoughts in your head. Write freely with no editing, no reading, and no rereading. Just get it out. Vent and complain, about everything on your mind. Then you’ll be rid of the emotional clutter that can keep you from succeeding. But you are not finished! Write out your affirmations. All those great things that you want to do, be, and achieve. Write them like they have already happened. Believe it or not, it will start to sink into your subconscious until you find yourself making these things happen.

4. Tactic Four: Be Nice to Yourself

This is permission to be a little crazy. In fact, this exercise might make you feel a little funny at first, but if you keep at it, in time you won’t even be able to find your inner critic. Nothing makes it shrink like a face to face showdown. So gather your courage, and look in the mirror. Instead of criticizing yourself, as we so often do, give yourself some encouragement. Biblically we are told to treat our neighbors like ourselves. If we did that, our neighbors would move! (Unless, we start treating ourselves better.) Write down five great things about yourself and read them everyday. Before long, you’ll begin to see that you are right. You have amazing potential and superb ideas. You are on the verge of making your dreams a reality.

WORKSHEET #9

Now, Let’s Start By Turning These Tactics Into Actions:

List five critical things you say to yourself:

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List five positive things you could say to yourself instead:

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Over the next seven days, make a check for every day you wrote your frustrations in your journal.

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List how will you reward yourself for doing this for one full week.

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Can you see how you are on the right road? By changing how you think, you also change how you act, or react to any given situation. You have the inner power to feel completely different about yourself. In turn, this will make tremendous things happen for you!

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